I celebrated my 37th birthday yesterday. I have to say – birthdays are getting less fun with each passing year. It’s not just that I’m getting older. Rather, some part of me can’t help but feel as if I should have a greater sense of direction, more wisdom, more to show. These days, my birthday triggers an existential crisis, leaving me to ask what am I doing with my life?
To help myself overcome this intense birthday navel-gazing, I like to set some personal intentions. It’s a way to give myself that direction I’m craving. It’s also a way to honour the fact that I have a whole new year stretched out before me, and I can use it however I see fit. Instead of lamenting what I haven’t done in my 37 years on earth so far, I’m going to think about what I want to do.
For the past two years, I’ve made birthday resolutions. I’ve had about a 50/50 success rate. I think that’s to be expected, especially given that things change over the course of a year. Still, even at a 50/50 success rate, I’m bringing a whole lot of things into my life that I didn’t have the year before. In any case, the list is more about aspirations or ideas, than writing a to-do list I must complete. It’s about setting a tone, if you will. So without further ado, here’s my list for this year.
What I Will do at 37
- Renovate my house, so that it better suits my needs.
- Buy a bicycle.
- Go on a women’s art retreat.
- Do yoga.
- Spend more time with my hands in the dirt.
- Eat less sugar.
- Read more books.
- Teach my daughter Hannah to use the sewing machine.
- Send my son Jacob to kindergarten.
- Learn how to make fabulous iced tea.
- Play fewer video games.
- Give my kids their own household chores.
- Allow myself to just experience what it’s like to have both of my children in school all day, before making a bunch of plans to fill up the time.
- Go on at least one fun family outing a month.
- Try kayaking.
- Not beat myself up if I don’t do everything on this list.
What do you want to do with your next year on earth? I love it if you’d play along in honour of my birthday!