Sibling Love

Sibling affection is a strange thing. I know this from my own experience as a sibling. It can be a very peculiar combination of love and jealousy. I always had a strong affection for my sister, but that didn’t change the fact that I sort of liked it when she got in trouble, too.

Now I have a front row seat for another sibling relationship. I watch Hannah play with her baby brother, and she alternately hugs and mauls him. Often I can’t even tell which is which. Is she trying to show her love in an overly boisterous fashion, or does she actually want to strangle him? I’m not sure. See if you can tell.

Hug or headlock? You decide.

Riding on the rocking horse

Don't strangle your brother!

Much better

I don’t think that there’s too much I can do to mold my children’s relationship with each other. I can set some basic ground rules, but it’s something they’ll have to figure it out for themselves. I think it’s best if I don’t interfere too much, provided everyone is safe and reasonably secure. Let’s just hope that we all survive to tell the tale.

PS – I have advanced to the second round of the Canadian Blog Awards! From now until December 19 you can vote every day. Look for in the Family and Blog Post Series categories.

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  1. What cute pictures! I believe there are quite a few pictures of both hugs and strangling in our family photo album, too.

    I wonder, though, do you think it makes a big difference on a sibling relationship how far apart siblings are in age? Both my brother and I, and my husband and his brother, are 18 months apart in age, and though we often fought, we played really well together and had really close relationships with our brothers growing up. I’ve noticed in my friends who are three or four years apart from their siblings, that there’s a lot more jealousy and resentment, but admittedly it’s a small sample. What do you think?
    .-= Sarah´s last post ..Santa Baby =-.

  2. That last series of three photos is priceless! So adorable :).

  3. I love how Jacob looks so patient and long-suffering through it all. “Hey, at least she’s not ignoring me”. The first picture looks like genuine (although suffocating) affection. The third one looks like she’s measuring him for collar size. I think he’s safe in the short term :).
    .-= Allison´s last post ..************Who’s On First? =-.

  4. When Em was born K went into a Hulk-like RAGE anytime he saw her. It was crazy. And scary. And most of the first 10 months of her life I spent trying to act as a shield between her and her brother who was doing his best to beat her down. We’ve finally progressed out of that stage and I can actually see some love and caring between them. Which is awesome. My series of pictures look a little like yours only with a bit more of the strangling shots than I would like. So when you say, “Let’s just hope that we all survive to tell the tale.”, trust that I am totally with you on that sentiment!
    .-= Marilyn´s last post ..Snow =-.

  5. Oh, the stories I could tell about my own children…and they still hold true today.Yes, stand by,teach them the tools to communicate and get along , and then get out of the way.

  6. What cute photos, esp. that 3rd one, lol
    .-= Maya´s last post ..It’s Beginning to Look a Lot Like Christmas =-.

  7. Hmmm…I’ve been struggling a lot with this. I appreciate your lessaiz-faire attitude. It’s true that I can’t really orchestrate it as I would perhaps like to.

    Sometimes it breaks my heart when I can tell by my son’s face that he is being mean and my daughter is laughing because she admires him so much and she’s too young to realize that it isn’t what she thinks.

  8. Awww, how sweet. Makes me kinda sad though. Husband and I are both only children (LONELY children) and I’ll never know what sibling love feels like. This was the main reason we had another baby so quickly – we didn’t want Jonas to be alone for too long. Being alone sucks. And now we’re the only ones who can take care of our parents, which is a ridiculously huge responsibility for one kid. And nobody knows what it’s like to be raised in our house… we have nobody to commiserate with. It’s just a bummer.

    This is why I love, love, love seeing my boys getting along (which they do, most of the time.) I think they’re going to be so close – maybe best friends even. And I love that.
    .-= TheFeministBreeder´s last post ..TFB on TLC =-.

  9. Hugs can so quickly turn into pushing and vice versa. But at least he is at the point where he can push back. 🙂
    .-= Capital Mom´s last post ..Green =-.

  10. I have 2 sisters, and there were many periods of love and all out war 😉
    Congratulations on the 2nd round!!
    .-= Dionna´s last post ..Homemade Wheat Pizza Crust =-.

  11. I saw the older one grab and knock over the little one, and as I was about to intervene, the baby starts giggling with glee and his older brother proclaims, “we play together and have fun because we’re brothers!” Um, ok. I guess they’re having fun!
    .-= Lady M´s last post ..Team Alice =-.

  12. I feel you on this one. There was time when Emma was getting just a little too rough in her ‘love’ for Hannah. Now that they are more or less the same size, Hannah is able to ‘love’ right on back. In our house, as long as no one is bleeding or unconcious or arms aren’t at odd angles,I really try to let them work it out as much as they can at 3 an 4. It always ends in a kiss though, even if the hug is more like a suffication manouver.
    .-= Heather´s last post ..The Nutcracker =-.

  13. This occurs by the minute in our house too. Scraming, grabbing, appologizing, hugging and kissing. Oh, there it goes, I hear some more “loving” going on right now.
    .-= Melodie´s last post ..Caring For A High Needs Baby During The Holidays =-.

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