Selfie, Selfie, Selfie

Before I get into this post, there are two things I want to say first:

  1. I am sad that going back to school is totally wreaking havoc on my posting schedule here. However, I am loving school, so don’t feel too bad for me. I just want to acknowledge that things are different for me right now.
  2. When I have no good title ideas, I just repeat a word three times. Somehow it seems more clever than using it only once. I don’t know why.

Now that I’ve gotten that off my chest, I want to talk about the selfie. While the word selfie was added to the Oxford English Dictionary in 2013, my spellcheck here is underscoring the word with a tell-tale squiggly red line. This tells you that this is still a new concept. Not every dictionary is down with the word. Not every person is down with the word. We’re still figuring it out. We’re also still debating the selfie’s significance, and whether it’s a good thing or a bad thing.

Selfies are particularly controversial in feminist circles. The authors of articles like Selfies Aren’t Empowering. They’re a Cry for Help. and Putting selfies under a feminist lens suggest that the selfie is a product of a culture that objectifies women. After all, the selfie is the province of young women. Why, many people wonder, do these young women feel the need to post photos of their faces on social media for other people – perhaps most especially males – to see? Seeking external validation isn’t a sign that we’re empowered, it’s a sign that we lack self-esteem.

Other feminists disagree with this take. They argue that selfies can be empowering, particularly for women who don’t normally see themselves portrayed in the media – that is, women of colour, women larger than a size six, transgender women, and so on. Veronica Arreola of Viva La Feminista found that sentiment of becoming visible compelling enough to launch the #365FeministSelfie project. She wrote, “… taking a selfie and posting it means REALLY looking at yourself. And hopefully at the end (or much sooner!) you will find it less painful and more enjoyable. I don’t want to turn us into Paris Hiltons, but rather individuals who don’t cringe when we need to take a photo.”

I heart Instagram big-time. So, when I noticed that people in my feed were using the #365FeministSelfie hashtag I looked into it. The explanation I read was that by posting photos of themselves, these women were attempting to make themselves more visible, and portray a broader definition of beauty. I liked that. I started posting photos of my own (although not quite every day). So far, I’m enjoying it.

It turns out there’s a lot to be said for the selfie. I don’t have to ask someone else to take my photo – I can do it when I’m at home by myself. I can get the angle I like, with the background I want. I can show myself how I want to be seen.

Is it narcissistic or objectifying? It could be, if I allowed myself to get caught up in how many ‘likes’ my photos get, or in making sure I look my absolute best in each photo. I feel that both of those things go against the grain of this particular project, though. It’s about showing women as we really are. It’s true that as a straight white woman (and a natural blonde, no less), there are plenty of people who look like me in the media. However, I don’t think that means I don’t deserve to be seen. The point is we all deserve to be seen, with makeup or without, wearing our best clothes or our pajamas, with perfectly-coiffed locks or messy morning hair. We all deserve to be seen on our own terms.

I have succumbed to the selfie trend, but I don’t think it’s a sign that I’ve lost touch with reality. I think it’s a sign that I’m participating in modern culture, and enjoying the challenge of documenting myself (almost) daily, just as I am. It’s also something I can do in very short snippets of time while my life is busy. I can see what other people are posting, and take part myself, in the two minutes I have before my class starts. Perhaps that, more than anything, is why I’m enjoying it. It fits my life right now, and allows me to document this time of great personal change.

Here’s what my #365FeministSelfie stream has captured so far:

Where do you stand on the selfie? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

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  1. I’ve been taking part in self portrait Thursday since it started in ?2007 by a bunch of Etsy sellers. SPTs h have helped me come to terms with midlife motherhood, ageing and emigration. There’s nothing vain about looking after your mental health IMO
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    Like most things, selfies are mitigated by intention and/or how the tools are used. If I have low self-esteem and continually post photos of my glorious cleavage then perhaps there’s a problem. If I’m a reflective middle-aged critical thinker ((cough)) … and I’m in the mood for exploring aging, images and so then, well…

    ALSO, selfies and images in general are now part of the new normal so no sense in fighting it. The selfie phase t will peak and morph and evolve like everything else around us.

    While I like the general idea behind the feministselfie thing, I honestly don’t want to see daily photos of my friends in all my feeds. I prefer attempts at taking good photos (which I recognize IS a different goal).

    Interestingly, however, when I post a photo of myself without Theo I get TONS of likes. LOL.
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  3. i think self reflection in the form of selfies is a wonderful expression. i am not about it as a form of feminism nor am i actively taking/sharing selfies in an instagram way – instead i have been doing self – portraiture for several years – it’s more of a self love, loving me in the eye of the beholder, and a friendly reminder that i am here on the planet and finding a way to look at myself positively. it’s a reassurance thing. having been single for a period of time i had to remind myself that i was beautiful. I love what you are doing to mark this transition time for you. keep smiling!!
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  4. I too have been semi-participating in the #365feministselfie project, and do you know what I’ve found the most exciting/liberating about it? I like that it forces me to post some pictures that are less than flattering. Ones where you can see the bags under my eyes, ones where I’m having a bad hair day, ones where I otherwise would never, ever share a self-portrait with the world. It’s affirming to think that even my less-than-best self(ie) is worth sharing with the world.

    Love your selfies, by the way. ๐Ÿ™‚
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  5. I love selfies because they’re truth.
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  6. I like your selfies, and I like the idea of the feminist selfies project.

    BTW, fair to assume that the Maplelea doll “Leonie” in one of your selfies belongs to your daughter? Miranda has the same one, LOL.
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  7. Interesting. I liked everyone’s comments, especially Harriet’s. I don’t have a phone with a camera and I don’t Instagram, but I find the idea intriguing. Okay, I’ve erased a voluminous comment because I think I might have to do a whole post if I want to say everything I’m trying to say. Anyway, I like your selfies.
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  8. I don’t post photos of myself or my family members on the Internet without a really, really good reason. I feel very uncomfortable at the idea that once the photo is out there, not only do we not know who is looking at it, but it can be stolen and used for all sorts of purposes.

    Then I feel hypocritical, because I do enjoy reading about people’s lives and seeing pictures of them and their cute kids. But I don’t want people who have read all about me to be easily recognizing me in public. Even more, I don’t want people who have read about my child and know his name to also be able to recognize his face and be able to walk up to him and act like they know him.

    Offline, though, I’d love to have more photos of myself. I feel as though my thirties passed almost undocumented photographically, so that when I’m old I’ll hardly be able to remember what I looked like. I’ve often asked my partner to take more pictures of me, to no avail. So perhaps I need to begin taking selfies for myself!
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